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3 tips on how to manage your sadness

3 tips on how to manage your sadness

Postby Alex Jensen » July 28th, 2021, 5:50 am

Our moods are like a roller coaster: at some points, we are up, and at others, we are down. Humans experience a wide range of emotions, including both positive and negative ones. Joy, euphoria, and happiness are emotions that we like to feel, while sadness, demotivation, or listlessness are considered unpleasant.

When we say to ourselves, "I'm in a slump," many of us see it as a bad thing, but it is actually totally healthy to feel it, much more so than convincing ourselves that we should be happy all the time. Let's take a look at why.

I'm in a slump: what do I do?
Our moods are never stable. There are times when we are more upbeat and other times when we feel more down. It may only last a few hours, it may last a few days, weeks, or even a few months, but whatever the case, there will always be a moment, full of demotivation and sadness, when we say to ourselves, "I'm in a slump."

Our illusions have been extinguished. We don't feel like doing anything and don't want to do anything at all. We are lazy about everything, but not because we are lazy or because we want to procrastinate a little. No, it is laziness of lack of humor, of "not now, I don't feel like it." Laziness that is neither selfish nor a lack of rest. It is simply that there is no emotional or psychological strength to keep up the same pace as before.

It is entirely normal and healthy to feel this way from time to time. We cannot feel joy 24 hours a day. Feeling sad, unmotivated, and unwilling to do things at some point during the day or for a few days in a row is a sign that we are alive and that we are not people trapped in a constant vortex of pathological euphoria. Everything that goes up must come down. That's why there are so many ups and downs in life. Don't despair; you are healthy.

The tyranny of happiness
If we do a quick search on how to be happy, we will find many articles, videos, and even self-help guides detailing the strategies and steps to be satisfied for the rest of our lives. We think these essays help online readers, so we end up reading tons of them to fill the void and find the key to our wellbeing. They promise us not to experience a single second of sadness; they make us believe that it is a terrible emotion detrimental to our health and personal relationships. Being sad is bad, dysfunctional.

We live in a world in which negative emotions are demonized, making us ignore the fact that, however unpleasant they may be, they are necessary. As we said, they are a sign of good mental health, and we cannot pretend to hide or even ignore our emotions. The tyranny of happiness promoted by self-help gurus and other psychological currents has sold the idea that human beings need to be happy all the time and that any "bad" emotion must be eradicated.

The problem with those who promote these ideas is that they offer strategies that are neither realistic nor work in the long term. Moreover, to be against the experience of negative emotions is to neutralize human nature itself. It is not possible to be happy in extremely unpleasant situations such as the death of a family member, the loss of a job, or when we break a leg. The idea that we must always be happy in the face of adversity, that we must always try to look on the bright side of things and ignore the bad, is to anesthetize our way of being.

Tips for managing this feeling
Although it is possible to avoid feeling sad about some things in the future, it is normal to feel a bit down from time to time and, far from fighting it, you should live with it. It may be because of something we have done or because we have simply woken up in a bad mood, but it is an emotion, and as such, it will have its function, its importance in our lives.

1. Accept the emotion
I'm feeling down; what's the first thing I do? Very often, the first reaction to this emotion is to deny it. We do everything we can to distract ourselves, fighting against this unpleasant feeling. Nobody wants to feel sad, and, logically, we try to get rid of the experience of this emotion as soon as possible.

But we should do just the opposite. Instead of ignoring the fact that we are down, we should accept what is happening. Isn't that strange? Although it may seem counter-intuitive, we must understand that when it comes to emotions, resisting them will only make them come back more strongly when we pay attention to them in the future, making them harder to hide.

In fact, one of the fundamental pillars of psychotherapy is that negative emotions come to the surface, that the patient re-experiences them in the consultation so that they become aware of them, accept them, can identify them, and, consequently, can work on them.

2. Lean on social relationships
Improving the quality of our social relationships directly impacts our happiness, helping us better manage our negative emotions such as sadness or anger. Healthy friendships are a great motivator when we go through a down period, encouraging us to feel better without ignoring what has led us to where we are.

A good friend supports us by being there, listening to us tell them how our partner has left us, how we have been made redundant or what has happened to make us feel so bad. Whatever it is that has made us sad, they will actively listen to us, making us feel much better just by letting them know how we feel. They will not force us to be better by giving us empty advice along the lines of "don't forget to be happy."

That is why we must have other people we trust and who make us feel supported, which is fundamental to feeling good. It should also be said that social relationships will help us to avoid falling even deeper, as loneliness can contribute to our slump even further.

3. Do not abandon your objectives
We have said that we should live our emotions and not actively distract ourselves to hide these feelings. The best thing to do is live them without abandoning everything that makes up our daily lives, something that is quite common when we are in a slump.

Anybody has a bad day, and, usually, we do not want to continue with our project on that particular day, whether it is getting in shape, learning a language, or finishing a degree.

However, we have to make an effort and even focus even more on that goal. This is not trying to be distracted, but trying to be constant, to live the excitement and live our life. We may need to take a break from time to time, but we should not hide behind the fact that we are unwell to give up.

If we continue with our projects despite being down, we will be creating a compelling precedent. We will have made the memory in which we remember that, despite adversity, despite not being in the mood, we were tenacious and continued to do what we wanted to do. We felt negative emotions, but it didn't stop us from being strong and moving forward. This mentality will make us happy in the future, not the cheap self-help philosophy that we should just be happy.

Differences between being in a slump and having a depression.
In popular parlance, it is common to say "I'm depressed" to refer to being sad or down. It is difficult to fight against this expression and educate everyone to stop using it in their everyday language, even if we allude to the fact that it may be disrespectful to compare having a bad day with having a psychiatric disorder. However, we recommend not to use it out of respect for those suffering from depression.

You should remember that clinical depression is a pathology, a mental disorder, something that implies significant severity and that no one wants to have. Depression is not adaptive, as the sufferer is severely impaired in substantial areas of their life such as family, employment, studies, and even hobbies. A depressed person does not get out of a slump by trying to cheer themselves up, doing a bit of sport, or simply going out for a day out.

Depression is a dark and bitter companion that can plunge you into the deepest sadness for years. It involves a low mood over a long time without a specific trigger. Symptoms that predominate in this condition include cognitive distortions, lack of initiative, suicidal thoughts, and, above all and as the most characteristic symptoms, constant sadness, and apathy.

A "slump" differs from clinical depression in its temporality and intensity. Slumps last for a short time, at most a month, and are not at all as intense as depression. This emotion does not invite us to be productive or even motivate us, but it does not imply a high degree of alteration, and we can stop feeling it in a matter of minutes. Moreover, being down does not prevent us from going about our everyday lives, although we certainly do not feel good.

We must understand between the two that depression requires psychological intervention so that the patient acquires the necessary tools to manage their psychopathology, improve their state of health, and learn to overcome adversity. On the other hand, if we are suffering from a slump, psychotherapy is always recommended, but it is a much lesser problem, which will surely fade over time. The lows are just the valleys in the roller coaster of our life, and they always come before a high, the joy.

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Re: 3 tips on how to manage your sadness

Postby Milan Joy » September 16th, 2021, 2:08 pm

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